The last few years have really been spent dedicating much of my mental, emotional and physical energy to one of the most important people in my life. Pure, unapologetic and unadulterated devotion to myself…working on my confidence, my physical, mental and emotional well-being, and most importantly, prioritizing, loving and appreciating myself.

This conscious shift to make myself the center of my universe really has taken root in different aspects of my life overall. I prioritize myself when it comes to everything from my eating habits to my self care habits and everything in between. This is not to say that I am selfish with everyone/everything else. On the contrary, my higher level of self appreciation actually makes me a better, more giving and better prepared person for those around me.

I also find that this devotion to self is really ritualistic in its approach, especially in my sexy self care routine. What I mean by ritualistic is that they become steps in a set of practices that are integral to my everyday life. I don’t know about you, but I want to feel like a goddess on the daily. Keep reading to learn how I take simple things I do everyday and turn them into an experience where I tune into my mind, body and inner goddess.

So, I personally look at my self care practice as more of a sensory experience. I like to set the mood, and take myself to a stress free state of mind. I usually get home from work, and have a set of rituals in my roles as mom and partner to my husband. As a family unit, we do things like feed/walk the dogs, make dinner, wash/fold laundry, main area upkeep, baseball games, barrel racing, etc…but at least 2-3 nights per week, I make it a point to focus on me when all is said and done. My nighttime self care routine is a distinct set of practices that come together to bring me to a relaxed state of mind and body✨

Set the Mood

I love the warmth and glow created by candles, so usually I start by dimming my bedroom lights and lighting a candle (or two) to illuminate my space. I also love incense…My husband does too, thank goodness, so I love setting one in my chakra goddess incense holder my daughter gifted me. She took a trip to New Orleans in 2021 and brought me that holder plus some Dragon’s Blood incense from the shop, Dark Matter Oddities & Artisan Collective. I especially love the scents Vanilla, Dragon’s Blood and Sandalwood, but I’m usually pretty open to many, as they all speak to me in different ways🕯️

From there, I usually turn on the shower. I love for it to be hot and steamy, and mine takes a while to get to temperature. I start to undress, peeling away the stresses of the day, and thoroughly enjoy running a brush through my hair and spending some extra time on massaging my scalp. If I am going to wash my hair, then I just leave it loose, but if it’s a no-wash day then I twist it up into a bun and secure it in place. From there, I am ready to step into my personal sauna!

Wash Away the Day

As I mentioned above, I love a hot and steaming shower. One of my favorite things has to be just standing under the shower and letting the water run down my head and over my body. I find it to be incredibly soothing and calming; taking deep breaths also helps to get myself centered and relaxed. I love scents like rose, plumeria, and coconut, so you will definitely find them in my soaps and hair products. This past Christmas, I gifted myself the Kopari Sudsy Shower Oil, and I have been loving it. The scent is so light and coconut-y and it leaves my skin so so soft! It is THE perfect soap to use for shaving!

Another way I love taking care of my skin is to give it a nice full body exfoliation. I discovered The Baiden Mitten a longgggg time ago and when I did a little bit of research and read the reviews, I was completely intrigued. It does an amazing job of removing dead skin…you can literally see your skin pilling up when you use it. Another alternative is a nice dry brush before getting in the shower…the bristles are so invigorating and refreshing and leave the skin feeling so soft! Using either of these two options leaves my skin feeling amazingly smooth which creates the perfect canvas for the next step of my sexy self care ritual.

Fall in Love with Yourself

This is probably the most important step of my entire sensual self~care routine. I will even lock the door so as not to be disturbed during my me~time! After I have dried myself off, I stand in front my vanity, and look at myself in the mirror…nude…naked…in the buff…During this time, I apply my facial skincare and them my body skincare. The products in my skincare regimen are on constant rotation, but in the evening I tend to prefer richer, more luxurious products to really turn up the pamper level and the overnight moisturization. What really takes the routine to goddess level are the different body oils I love experimenting with.

I have a few that I turn to time and time again. I love taking body oil and really working into my shoulders, elbows, arms, chest, stomach, hips, butt cheeks, thighs, legs, feet…hmmm…really everywhere LOL! Trust me when I say, your skin will thank you.

One of my holy grail faves is the Osea Malibu Undaria Argan Oil. This stuff is pure magic in a bottle. I feel like I say that about all the Osea products I talk about, but it’s just the truth…They are top notch! I am starting to experiment with their Vagus Nerve Oil as well. I want to do a deep dive into the vagus nerve and learn some more before I share my thoughts…stay tuned for that in the future.

Another quite lovely one is the Dirty Lamb Copaiba Body Serum. I received one in the Kinder Beauty monthly subscription service, and I was completely blown away by how much I love this stuff! The scent is so delicious and the combination of oils is the perfect formula…hemp seed, sweet almond, avocado, jojoba, vitamin E, lavender, sweet orange, clary sage, rosemary, and copaiba balsam🌿

My tatas also deserve their own self-care…And for that I absolutely love the Foria Intimacy Breast Oil. Honestly, it just makes me feel so voluptuous and magical. They even provide easy steps to follow on their site:

How to Breast Massage (from Foria’s website)

A celebrated wellness practice that is simple and easy to follow, the steps below are based on traditional breast massage, but simply touching your body in a way that feels loving and pleasurable is just as beneficial. 

• Step 1: Apply a dropper or more directly onto chest or hand.
• Step 2: Start at the shoulders using light sweeping motions, and move towards the center of your chest.
• Step 3: Using light, gentle pressure, massage breast or chest area in circular motion working towards the nipples.
• Step 4: Massage gently underneath the breasts, working from the sides of your body towards the center. 
• Step 5: Lift arm above your head. Use light sweeping motions from the elbow, down your arm, across your armpit, and towards your heart. Repeat on both sides.

Spread the Love

Depending on my mood after all of the above, I may just walk out of my room like the goddess that I am orrrr I may just have to invite my husband into the room for some “play time”. If that is the case, I HIGHLY HIGHLY HIGHLY recommend Foria’s Awaken Arousal Oil with CBD. I first purchased this magic potion as part of their Quickie Kit, and it is completely worth it! You get smaller versions of the Awaken Arousal Oil, Intimacy Sex Oil and a pack of 2 Intimacy Melts. What a great way to try out 3 of their best sellers.

Use the code LUCYV20 for 20% off your order on Foria’s website 💗

Typically for me, after I orgasm once, it takes me a minute to recuperate and be able to jump back in the game. Not with Awaken! I can bounce back and each orgasm after that is more and more intense. I highly recommend getting that clitoral orgasm in first and then feel free to explore both clitoral and g-area stimulation after that for mind-blowing pleasure…multiple times! Just rub in 1-2 pumps of Awaken anywhere you want to experience added pleasure, the vulva, lips, clitoris, perineum, nipples…the sky’s the limit! Let it work it’s magic for 5-30 minutes (everybody is different) 💋

Once I’m ready for the party to start, I like to use the Intimacy Sex Oil to provide lubrication for the both of us. Now if things are going to get a bit more booty-focused, I highly recommend using the Booty Melts about 20 minutes prior to booty play. They are easy to use and really help to relax and lubricate that area to make penetration easier and extremely pleasurable with 150 mg of CBD per melt.

I hope that this post has empowered you to engage with your sensual goddess on a more regular basis! I know that it was pretty up close and personal, but honestly, if we can’t get up close and personal with ourselves and our self care and pleasure, then what are we doing? I have come to learn/realize that my happiness and pleasure is my priority. The more I focus on that for myself, the more I can provide it for those I care about as well.

Do you have any tips and/or tricks for channeling your sensual goddess? Let us know in the comments so we can learn from each other 💖

Disclaimer: Please note my opinions are 100% my own.  Some of the links on this page may be affiliate links.  This means that I earn a small commission based on any purchases you make using my links.  Thank you for visiting and supporting my page✨